Male Psychology: starting something

For men of the personality trait described here, this can be very devastating.  The root of the pain is not merely the loss of intimacy with his wife, or of loss of custody to children, or of loss of wealth and income from the settlement.   The pain is that there was an idea that started the relationship, that started the family.

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What men bring: planting of seeds

The motivation of this post was the revelation that I recently experienced where I saw the sprouting of something I planted earlier.  I don’t know where it will lead, but the exhilaration of seeing the first signs of independent of life is something that I also am left alone to experience.

Of the things that men bring to society, some of us plant seeds.

Isolation is consequence of being relevant

I suspect this idea has always been at the back of my mind as I contemplated the opportunity of starting a relationship.   Even at a young age, I recognized that the project could not last the duration, and the concept of marriage sold to me is defined by going the duration.   I was sold on something that I realized is something no longer available to purchase. 

Evolutionary Psychology: Imagined Ancestors

Evolutionary psychology permits us a justification to at least propose a condition where such behaviors would be rewarded and thus passed down through future generations.   The problem is that the historic record doesn’t provide clear evidence of this transitional period between hunter-gatherer tribes and settlement tribes.   Instead we see evidence of the nomadic tribes tracking and following the food sources through the seasons, and we see evidence of the first settlements.   Missing is a condition in between, a period where humans would acquire the behavioral traits to live in a more complex arrangement of even the simplest settlements.

Evolutionary Psychology: We are Domesticated hunter-gatherers

Back to the evolutionary psychology, we assume we know what living conditions were like for our hunter-gatherer ancestors by extrapolating backward the central premise of evolution through natural selection of accidental variations.   Following a similar line of reasoning, I am inclined to assume that first breeder was someone who adopted a few orphaned hunter gatherers and bred them to be compliant to a civilized life and prefer living within it than living in the ancestral alternative. 

To my self 40 years younger: you know

Had you had that confidence at the age of 17, I’m confident I would be in a very similar situation as I am right now but with a memory of a life lived differently.   I can’t tell if it would be happier or not, but I do know I would have had more time for doing what I love most: solitude, contemplation, and living simply.   I’m guessing I would be here similarly situated but with more stories that I would be eager to tell.   My lack of confidence in what I knew to be true denied me those stories of living an authentic life.

Archaic personality assessment in age of data

Consider the case of a big-data store the was able to store all of the individual answers keyed with sequence numbers, time stamps, and specific individual identification.  I don’t think anyone would voluntarily discard that data in exchange with anonymized data consisting of just a few categories.   The value of data reduction into categories is for people who don’t have access to big data.   Those people are the consumers who wish to have an external assessment of what kind of person they are, allowing them a shortcut to introducing themselves, similar to the 1960’s approaching of introducing oneself as a zodiacal sign.