Male Psychology: starting something

For men of the personality trait described here, this can be very devastating.  The root of the pain is not merely the loss of intimacy with his wife, or of loss of custody to children, or of loss of wealth and income from the settlement.   The pain is that there was an idea that started the relationship, that started the family.

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What men bring: planting of seeds

The motivation of this post was the revelation that I recently experienced where I saw the sprouting of something I planted earlier.  I don’t know where it will lead, but the exhilaration of seeing the first signs of independent of life is something that I also am left alone to experience.

Of the things that men bring to society, some of us plant seeds.

Isolation is consequence of being relevant

I suspect this idea has always been at the back of my mind as I contemplated the opportunity of starting a relationship.   Even at a young age, I recognized that the project could not last the duration, and the concept of marriage sold to me is defined by going the duration.   I was sold on something that I realized is something no longer available to purchase. 

Audiences of Voices

My hypothesis is that men do have a tendency to prefer male voices for topics of high interest or importance, and that tendency is a consequence of the opportunity for a fruitful counterargument when we disagree.   I follow more male voices than female voices, because there are many more people I disagree with than I agree with.   I will listen to both sexes if I agree with them, but I will only follow men if there is a potential that I will disagree with them.    It is only with other men that I can have any chance of gaining anything through argument.

Testing the young-man’s hypothesis of self

My discussion here is why I criticize my 17 year old self for not being more confident about my self-assessment.   I don’t criticize my 13 year self who pretty much understood the same thing.   It is reasonable to the 13 year old to treat the assessment as a hypothesis to be tested.   The various tests attempted were all appropriate, if not not sufficient. 

To my self 40 years younger: you know

Had you had that confidence at the age of 17, I’m confident I would be in a very similar situation as I am right now but with a memory of a life lived differently.   I can’t tell if it would be happier or not, but I do know I would have had more time for doing what I love most: solitude, contemplation, and living simply.   I’m guessing I would be here similarly situated but with more stories that I would be eager to tell.   My lack of confidence in what I knew to be true denied me those stories of living an authentic life.